Is the thinking that those who don't like Sam/Dean would not have to see that there are links for it, and thus be upset by the reminder of its existence? They know it exists; what harm is there in having to scroll past some links for it, which don't have any offensive aside from their simple existence? Let's just say for the sake of discussion that the Sam/Dean links are put last in the fiction grouping. What if people are reading on the main journal page - they'll have to scroll past them to go to the next entry, won't they? Or what if they want to click through the icon links - again with having to see those links.

Even with Sam/Dean put second rather than last, all of your points remain good. I think as a matter of psychology and eye-movement, people take in less of the details of Sam/Dean if they're not sort of scrolling it to see when the "Gen" heading pops up, but yeah -- anyone who reads the newsletter is going to have to see incest listings and is going to have to deal with any discomfort that causes them.

3 and 4 are sticking points as big as 1 and 2 to me; astolat's response indicates she thinks the answer to 3 is no. I disagree for the reasons I stated in my response to her comment, but her comment does contribute to my fears that the answer to 4 is no -- that even if I think, as a matter of general fannish interaction and social structure, it is inoffensive and in fact the nature of fandom for fans to suggest adaptations of existing structures to suit changing needs, it may be that the entire situation is so contentious that, as cofax7 and vaznetti fear, the request will be taken as a demand and simply create more ill feeling. I'm afraid of that, too, and increasingly tempted to delete this post.