Yes, but then is the vid attacking Spike's and Dean's sexism and showing Veronica as counterpoint? Or is the vid trying to imply that Veronica-as-victim shows the same sexism as Spike and Dean--or the same female victimization in their scenes? My head hurts.

"That the abusers/privileged are damaged by violence too?"
Yeah, I could see that with Duncan, especially. And I wonder why Logan didn't appear since I could see him being used to support one and two of the three possible interpretations you laid out.