Just wanted to say that your comments have been living in the back of my head for the past two weeks or however long it's been since you made them, making me obsess a little and feel defensive, and I came to the conclusion that they couldn't possibly bother me so much if you weren't fundamentally right. I posted an ETA to my LJ post to that effect, and I wanted to say thanks for showing me where I was being privilegedly naive/sweeping in assumptions and interpretations.