I wanted to thank you for at least trying to make the point that I've been trying to make for a long time, which I often feel falls on completely deaf ears: that fans should not be made to feel fandom is not a safe space for preservation of their pseudonymous life. And more and more, that is how I feel; I often am so uncomfortable with the idea that visibility is the preferred mode of being now, that it's what we should strive for, and I'm not ever going to get past that. It doesn't matter to me if increased visibility is the de facto way of things. I should be able to choose to feel visibility is not desirable for me personally without people insisting there's something wrong with my feelings on this issue. Which is how the climate/zeitgeist feels to me at this point, even if people insist they mean the exact opposite; it seems to me that those who are privileged not to want to be pseudonymous are trying to drag the rest of us out behind them by insisting that it's too late to 'hide', and they are missing the point. I'm aware I'm generalizing; I'm aware not all fans who are privileged to be publicly fannish are this way. But that doesn't change how it feels to me.

/end vent